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A website dedicated to Japanese ummm....quirkiness to say the least.



Nagalit tuloy yung mga hipon, kain ka kasi ng kain eh...


Mahilig pa naman ako gumamit ng bath salts...does this explain why?....

Cat Ice Cream anyone?

My nephews' cat, Green...don't ask me why they named it that way! LOL!

Of Men two

Let him miss you.
Let him need you.
Let him love you.
You DON'T need to give it your all everytime.
Let him do his part.
Thats why its called a relationship, you and him have to give and take from each other.

Sometimes, giving it your all is not enabling, it can also be constricting. It robs the other person a chance to do his part or contribute to the relationshipt. Don't be afraid to demand once in a while. Remember, a guy will treat you the way you treat or see yourself. If you think you are not deserving or if you do not ask/request for what you want, chances are he will treat you the same way you treat or see yourself.
Actually it works both ways for men and women. We all NEED to be needed sometimes.

A mistake we women do is we want CONSTANT reassurance. Nothing wrong with reassurances but realistically, its' not always the same everyday. The feelings will always be there but the INTENSITY will not be the same everyday.

Think of it as the ebb and flow of the sea. Everyday, the tide comes in and goes out. BUT IT ALWAYS COMES BACK. The same in relationships, sometimes there are intense moments and sometimes dull, even painful moments. Once we learn to see and accept this as being natural in relationships, things will be easier to handle. Ride the wave baby!

Of Men

I was chatting with a friend one day and she was telling me her love life woes. Long distance relationship. Guy lives 6 hours up north, doesnt answer the phone or says he is busy when she calls lately. Although it doesnt always happen that way, the occasional times that he is like this drives her up the wall.

I can't say she is alone. That is a constant refrain from women (including me) about their men when they are so busy. I asked among my male friends, and generally, men are not wired to multi-task. They can only concentrate on one task at a time. And yes they DO forget us in the process. Yes, it results to hurt feelings of abandonment. But this doesnt mean that we are not important, just set aside for the moment. Whereas we females, CAN multi-task, work and still NOT forget to call, see and generally ask how they are.
Of course there will always be exceptions to the rule but what I am stating here is a fundamental difference between men and women.
Thats where having your own life comes in. Hang out with your friends, get yourself busy, have fun! Your world doesn't have to turn upside down everytime he does that.

Thats easier said than done. But when he realizes you are having so much fun w/o him he will be back faster than a speeding bullet.

On Marriage

Warning! This is quite a long read, but well worth to finish till the end.

On Marriage


PARTNERS AND MARRIAGE

By Eduardo Jose E. Calasanz

I have never met a man who didn’t want to be loved. But I have seldom met a man who didn’t fear marriage. Something about the closure seems constricting, not enabling. Marriage seems easier to understand for what it cuts out of our lives than for what it makes possible within our lives. When I was younger this fear immobilized me. I did not want to make a mistake. I saw my friends get married for reasons of social acceptability, or sexual fever, or just because they thought it was the logical thing to do. Then I watched as they and their partners became embittered and petty in their dealings with each other. I looked at older couples and saw, at best, mutual toleration of each other. I imagined a lifetime of loveless nights and bickering days and could not imagine subjecting myself or someone else to such a fate. And yet, on rare occasions, I would see old couples who somehow seemed to glow in each others presence. They seemed really in love, not just dependent upon each other and tolerant of each others foibles. It was an astounding sight, and it seemed impossible. How, I asked myself, can they have survived so many years of sameness, so much irritation at the others habits? What keeps love alive in them, when most of us seem unable to even stay together, much less love each other?

The central secret seems to be in choosing well. There is something to the claim of fundamental compatibility. Good people can create a bad relationship, even though they both dearly want the relationship to succeed. It is important to find someone with whom you can create a good relationship from the outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to see clearly in the early stages. Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors the way you see yourselves together. It blinds you to the thousands of little things by which relationships eventually survive or fail. You need to find a way to see beyond this initial overwhelming sexual fascination. Some people choose to involve themselves sexually and ride out the most heated period of sexual attraction in order to see what is on the other side. This can work, but it can also leave a trail of wounded hearts. Others deny the sexual side altogether in an attempt to get to know each other apart from their sexuality. But they cannot see clearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexual desire looms so large that it keeps them from having any normal perception of what life would be like together.

The truly lucky people are the ones who manage to become long-time friends before they realize they are attracted to each other. They get to know each others laughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see each other at their worst and at their best. They share time together before they get swept up into the entangling intimacy of their sexuality. This is the ideal, but not often possible. If you fall under the spell of your sexual attraction immediately, you need to look beyond it for other keys to compatibility.

One of these is laughter. Laughter tells you how much you will enjoy each others company over the long term. If your laughter together is good and healthy, and not at the expense of others, then you have a healthy relationship to the world. Laughter is the child of surprise. If you can make each other laugh, you can always surprise each other. And if you can always surprise each other, you can always keep the world around you new. Beware of a relationship in which there is no laughter. Even the most intimate relationships based only on seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Over time, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the wor34d ld tends to turn you against those who do not share the same viewpoint, and your relationship can become based on being critical together.

After laughter, look for a partner who deals with the world in a way you respect. When two people first get together, they tend to see their relationship as existing only in the space between the two of them. They find each other endlessly fascinating, and the overwhelming power of the emotions they are sharing obscures the outside world. As the relationship ages and grows, the outside world becomes important again. If your partner treats people or circumstances in a way you can’t accept, you will inevitably come to grief. Look at the way she cares for others and deals with the daily affairs of life. If that makes you love her more, your love will grow. If it does not, be careful. If you do not respect the way you each deal with the world around you, eventually the two of you will not respect each other.

Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteries of life.***** We live on the cusp of poetry and practicality, and the real life of the heart resides in the poetic. ****** If one of you is deeply affected by the mystery of the unseen in life and relationships, while the other is drawn only to the literal and the practical, you must take care that the distance does not become an unbridgeable gap that leaves you each feeling isolated and misunderstood.

There are many other keys, but you must find them by yourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our hearts that we will not betray and private commitments to a vision of life that we will not deny. If you fall in love with someone who cannot nourish those inviolable parts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her, you will find yourselves growing further apart until you live in separate worlds where you share the business of life, but never touch each other where the heart lives and dreams. From there it is only a small leap to the cataloging of petty hurts and daily failures that leaves so many couples bitter and unsatisfied with their mates.

So choose carefully and well. If you do, you will have chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and then the real miracle of marriage can take place in your hearts. I pick my words carefully when I speak of a miracle. But I think it is not too strong a word. There is a miracle in marriage. It is called transformation. Transformation is one of the most common events of nature. The seed becomes the flower. The cocoon becomes the butterfly. Winter becomes spring and love becomes a child. We never question these, because we see them around us every day. To us they are not miracles, though if we did not know them they would be impossible to believe.

Marriage is a transformation we choose to make. Our love is planted like a seed, and in time it begins to flower. We cannot know the flower that will blossom, but we can be sure that a bloom will come. If you have chosen carefully and wisely, the bloom will be good. If you have chosen poorly or for the wrong reason, the bloom will be flawed. We are quite willing to accept the reality of negative transformation in a marriage. It was negative transformation that always had me terrified of the bitter marriages that I feared when I was younger. It never occurred to me to question the dark miracle that transformed love into harshness and bitterness. Yet I was unable to accept the possibility that the first heat of love could be transformed into something positive that was actually deeper and more meaningful than the heat of fresh passion.

All I could believe in was the power of this passion and the fear that when it cooled I would be left with something lesser and bitter. But there is positive transformation as well. Like negative transformation, it results from a slow accretion of little things. But instead of death by a thousand blows, it is growth by a thousand touches of love. Two histories intermingle. Two separate beings, two separate presences, two separate consciousnesses come together and share a view of life that passes before them. They remain separate, but they also become one. There is an expansion of awareness, not a closure and a constriction, as I had once feared.

This is not to say that there is not tension and there are not traps. Tension and traps are part of every choice of life, from celibate to monogamous to having multiple lovers. Each choice contains within it the lingering doubt that the road not taken somehow more fruitful and exciting, and each becomes dulled to the richness that it alone contains. But only marriage allows life to deepen and expand and be leavened by the knowledge that two have chosen, against all odds, to become one. Those who live together without marriage can know the pleasure of shared company, but there is a specific gravity in the marriage commitment that deepens that experience into something richer and more complex.

So do not fear marriage, just as you should not rush into it for the wrong reasons. It is an act of faith and it contains within it the power of transformation. If you believe in your heart that you have found someone with whom you are able to grow, if you have sufficient faith that you can resist the endless attraction of the road not taken and the partner not chosen, if you have the strength of heart to embrace the cycles and seasons that your love will experience, then you may be ready to seek the miracle that marriage offers. If not, then wait. The easy grace of a marriage well made is worth your patience. When the time comes, a thousand flowers will bloom.

Warn a brotha

Pag mura ang nabili na song hits

Greatest Love of All
"I decided long ago, never to walk in edu manzano..."
(I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadow)

Cry by Mandy Moore
"A walk to remember... it was late afternoon!" (I'll
always remember, it was late afternoon)

All My Life by K-ci and Jojo
"supposed to be you're like my mother,supposed to be
you're like my sister" (close to me you're like my
mother... close to me you're like my sister)

Where's the Love
"People killing, people flying, children hurt an
living, crying..." (People killing, people dying;
children hurt and you hear them crying)

Leaving on a jet plane
"so kiss me and SMAFFLE me... (so kiss me and smile
for me...)

Usher & Alicia's My Boo
"It started when we were younger you were NINE.." (It
started when we were younger you were mine)

If I Ain't Got You by Alicia Keys
"some people want TAMBOURINES.." (diamond rings)

Britney's Baby One More Time
"My ONLY NEST is killing me... and I........(My
loneliness....)

Thumbthumping (Chumbawumba)
"I get knocked down by an elephant, my mommas's gonna
bring me down... " (I get knocked down, but I get up
again...)

Crush by Jennifer Paige
"i-splash, a little crush.." (it's just.. a little
crush..)

Red Hot's Californication -
"Viva Californication...." (Dream of
Californication...)

No scrubs, TLC
"A scrub is a guy who thinks he's fine but is also
known as a BUS STOP" (buster)

Waterfalls by TLC
"Don't go JASON waterfalls..." (Chasin')

John Mayer
"You're ALICE IN WONDERLAND... You're ALICE IN
WONDERLAND I'll use my hands" (Body is a wonderland)

Baa Baa Black Sheep
"Baa baa black sheep, heavy on the road..."

With A Smile by Eraserheads
"lift ur HAND.. baby dont be scared.. of the things
that could go wrong along the way.. (HEAD!!!)

Wag Na Wag Mong Sasabihin by Kitchie Nadal
"maaaaaaaaaag... , magdamag mong sasabihin........"

two-trick pony by sandwich
"i have been waiting for you all night under the glow
of INSECENT LIGHT" (...under the glow of YOUR
SATELLITE)

On Bended Knees by Boyz II Men
"Oh God give me the reason, I'M DOWN... ABANDON
ME..."(I'm down on bended knee)

Red Hot's Zephyr Song
"Fly away on my CELLPHONE...I feel it more than ever"
(Fly away on my zephyr, I feel it more than ever)
may idadagdag pa:

"Nothing's gonna change my love for you... you know
NAMAN MY LOVE how much I love you..."

AND FINALLY....
Anima Christi
"Soul of Christ... sat beside me..." (sanctify me! Ü)

Tumambling tayo! Agent bloopers

Ancient history, way back during my call center days, here are some phone booboos I have collected. Enjoy!

CSR: Is that Q for Cuba?

CSR: Is that S for Nancy?

Customer: that is T for...Tea and U for...you!

CSR: Is that the number 'sex'?

CSR: MA'AM is that I for India?
Customer: I for I love you

CSR: ....that is to better customer our service!"

CSR: Her tickets will be issued by the airport"

CSR: "Is thet g for joy ma'am?

CSR: "Is there anything else that I can advise you with?"

Customer: "Thats X for Xmas and z for Xylphone"

CSR: "Thank you for patiently mating!"