Tell me

Beach in Chaweng, Koh Samui, Thailand

Tell me, how well do you value your loved one?

Do you justify to yourself that the bigger things are more important than doing the smaller things? That doing the bigger things has a higher priority because in the end what you are doing is for them?

Were you too caught up in the moment, confident in the knowledge that they will always be there, waiting for you?

When was the last time that you asked how they were? Gave them flowers? Hugged them or gazed into their eyes or even sat down and talked about the silly little things?

Tell me…when was the last time you told them that you loved them?

Don’t lose sight of the bigger picture but don’t miss out on the details too.

When you look back in your old age, you will always remember

the way you made love,

the way her hair curls just so against her nape,

the piercing gaze a lover makes,

the flower that your child has given you,

that special dinner you cooked for each other,

her smell,

his breath against your neck as you lay sleeping, like two spoons in a drawer,

laughing together,

the way your embraces fit with his,

the time you were sick and you wake up to see that he has fallen asleep beside you on a chair,

your child on your lap as you read to him or her,

the adoring eyes your dog has on you as he enjoys you scratching his head,

You will never remember the paycheck you received that day,

Or the stress you had meeting a deadline,

the traffic on the way to work,

that irritating colleague,

They don’t have forever to wait. Do what you have to do now.

Don’t take your loved ones for granted. The little things are just as important as the big things you do for each other. It’s the small gestures that connects you everyday.

Sometimes we think there is a race to finish and that we always have to come in first.

Sometimes there is NO race to finish, only a price to pay for our actions.